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I need to re-learn how to do commumnity.

I feel so isolated these days -- and have for quite some time.
Not having the day job makes it even more acute.

The last communities I had were the WIT group of women from my former church, four or five of us who met regularly for mutual support and encouragement -- including three of them coming over at 9pm one night to help me bail out the all-time worst flood in my basement -- but that group dissolved several years ago. The other most recent "community" was Hob and the Welshman and I are the rest of our gaming group imploded. We were confidantes, did things together. . . Then, a few years ago, the Welshman simply stopped returning emails and phonecalls. Hob and I are still friends, but the sense of community was lost.

I have friendships, but none of them are within the context of community. I see them all around me, but feel bewildered as to how to hook in -- and part of me isn't sure that I want to. But I'm growing to hate the feeling of isolation, of having only myself to turn to, of not having any place to share face-to-face and do things with others.

I guess I need to check the MeetUp site again. . . I'm not sure what else to do.



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Sep. 27th, 2009 01:18 am (UTC)
I'd like that. Thank you.
Sep. 26th, 2009 11:50 pm (UTC)
If you ever figure it out, will you let me know? I have no idea if its because of who I am or just in my nature, but I've never really felt apart of any community.
Sep. 27th, 2009 02:04 am (UTC)
You may have already done this, but just in case... it would be a good idea, I think, to make sure you're very clear in your own mind about exactly what you're looking for from participation in a community, before seeking it. I thought I knew, and yet when I really tried to pinpoint it, it wasn't what I thought (same with friendships in general, actually). Sorting that out helped me a great deal (in my case, leading me to the conclusion that I didn't really want community the way I thought I did, but I'm sure YMMV).

In any case, good luck. It seems this is a difficult issue for many people, so you're not alone.
Sep. 27th, 2009 10:32 pm (UTC)
Very wise advice. I hadn't gotten that far in my process yet.

Thank you.
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