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Writer's Block: It Is What It Is

What oft-repeated quote or common cliché do you find the most annoying when someone says it to you?


When I read this question one particular phrase leaped to mind, even though it's been more than a decade since it was an issue. . .

When Wolfling was still an infant, and I was struggling with integrating "Mother" into my identity, and I had post-partum depression, my then-husband would sometimes look at me soulfully and declare, "To a child, the name of God is 'Mother.'"

I swear, I wanted to hit him every time he said it.

I was struggling to simply survive, and he was saying I needed to be god-like??

Of course that wasn't what he was trying to convey at all -- but I really didn't care. It was one more pressure, one more reason that I was supposed to be all joyous and serene about this mess that my life had become, and I hated hearing it.

I'm a bit surprised that it still touches a nerve after all these years, but as I type this I can feel an echo of that ferocious resentment deep inside.

After the first four or five times he said this, I asked him to please never say it again. He was troubled, and I can't remember whether or not I was able to make him understand why it upset me so much.

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mamadar
Aug. 26th, 2009 01:04 pm (UTC)
I think I would've wanted to hit the dumb-ass, too. *G*
qos
Aug. 26th, 2009 01:22 pm (UTC)
He could be unutterably clueless about what was going on with me.

Which, of course, is another reason we probably never should have gotten married in the first place.

I, of course, was always brilliantly insightful about his state of mind. ;-)
nicanthiel
Aug. 26th, 2009 02:50 pm (UTC)
They mention a variation of that quote several times in Silent Hill (the movie at least), and while I understand it, it bugs me too.
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